Dr. Kandace Kichler

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Started: 2026-01-27
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The moment I knew my wife's medications were destroying her wasn't when she gained 22 pounds. It wasn't when she stopped sleeping. It was when she was standing in our daughter's doorway at 2 AM, shaking. And first thing she said when I found her wasn't about why she was awake. It was: "I can't feel anything. I love her so much and I can't feel it." Not "I'm anxious." Not "I can't sleep." Not "I'm having a panic attack." Just: "I can't feel anything." Like two years on Zoloft had erased more than just the anxiety. Like the medication that was supposed to help had taken the parts of her that made her her. I stood in that hallway and felt something crack open in my chest. She was trembling. Eyes hollow and distant. Staring at our sleeping daughter like she was looking through glass. And all she could say was that she couldn't feel anything. I walked her back to bed. Sat with her until her hands stopped shaking. "The meds aren't working," she whispered. "I still wake up at 3 AM with my heart racing. But now I can't feel joy either. I can't feel love. I can't feel anything except the panic." She looked at me. "What's the point of taking something that numbs everything if it doesn't even fix the anxiety?" I didn't have an answer. The next morning, I called her psychiatrist. "When's the last time she had her cortisol levels checked?" I asked. There was a pause. "We don't typically test for that unless there's a specific endocrine concern." "She's been on SSRIs for two years. She's gained 20 pounds. She can't sleep. She has panic attacks at 3 AM. She can't feel anything anymore. And you haven't checked her cortisol?" Another pause. "The Zoloft should be managing her anxiety symptoms. If it's not working, we can try increasing the dose or adding Wellbutrin—" I hung up. Not because I was angry at him. Because I realized he was never going to look past the prescription pad. That's when I started counting. Two years. I'd watched this happen for two years. Watched her wake up every single night at 3 AM in full panic mode. Watched her white-knuckle her way through the day on 4 hours of sleep. Watched her gain weight no matter how little she ate. Watched her cry because she couldn't lose it. Watched her stop seeing friends because she "didn't have the energy." Watched the light go out of her eyes. Watched Lexapro work for six weeks, then stop. Watched them switch her to Zoloft. Watched that work for two months, then stop. Watched them add Xanax for "breakthrough anxiety." Watched her become dependent on it just to get through the day. Watched her hate herself for needing it. I wasn't asleep when she woke up at 3 AM. I heard everything. The hyperventilating. The pacing. The crying in the bathroom. The desperate googling at 4 AM: "Why do I wake up with panic attacks every night?" I just didn't know what to do. I'd already suggested everything. Therapy. She went for eight months. Learned breathing exercises. Still woke up at 3 AM. Meditation apps. Made her more anxious. Some stranger's voice telling her to "let go of worry" while her heart tried to pound out of her chest. Cutting out caffeine. Stopped coffee completely. Still had panic attacks. Exercise. She worked out four times a week. Still woke up in fight-or-flight mode. Magnesium supplements. Nothing. The doctors kept adjusting medications. Higher dose of Zoloft. Add Wellbutrin for energy. Ambien for sleep. A pharmacy's worth of pills. And she kept getting worse. But the moment that broke me was standing in that hallway at 2 AM, watching my wife look at our daughter and whisper "I can't feel anything." That's not anxiety. That's not depression. That's what happens when you medicate someone without fixing what's actually broken. The next day, I took a sick day. Spent ten hours at my computer. Not searching "anxiety tips" or "natural remedies." She'd tried all of that. I searched one thing: "Why does nothing work for anxiety when cortisol is high?" I needed to understand. Why her body woke her up in full panic mode at 3 AM every single night. Why two years of psychiatric medications made her numb without fixing the anxiety. Why everything failed. Why my wife was standing in our daughter's doorway at 2 AM, unable to feel love, saying "I can't feel anything" like it was the only truth she had left. The answer changed everything. It wasn't her fault. It wasn't a serotonin problem. It wasn't that she needed "better coping skills" or "a higher dose." Her cortisol was destroying her from the inside. Chronic stress had kept her cortisol levels elevated for so long that her body was burning through nutrients faster than she could possibly replace them through food. Magnesium. B-vitamins. Vitamin C. Potassium. Calcium. Every time her cortisol spiked—which was constantly—her body used these nutrients to try to regulate it. But there was never enough. So her body stayed in crisis mode. 24 hours a day. Even lying in a safe bed, in a safe house, with a husband who loved her and a daughter sleeping down the hall—her body didn't know she was safe. Because it didn't have the nutrients it needed to process that she was safe. That's the cruel irony. Her brain was screaming "DANGER" because her body was literally running on empty. And the medications? They altered serotonin and GABA to numb the panic signals. But they never addressed the fact that her body was depleted. So the panic kept coming back. Worse each time. Because the root cause was never fixed. That's why therapy never worked. You can't think your way out of a biological crisis. You can't breathe your way past a body that's starving at the cellular level. That's why SSRIs stopped working. They numbed her brain without feeding her body. So her system adapted until the pills were useless. Then they just stole her ability to feel anything at all. She didn't need a higher dose. She didn't need another medication. She didn't need to "try harder." She needed to replenish what two years of chronic cortisol had burned through. Not mask it. Restore it. I found it in a research study at midnight. Moringa leaf extract. A study from 2008 showed it reduced cortisol levels by 31% in 8 weeks in women with chronic stress. But that's not what stopped me. It was the nutrient profile. 25 times more iron than spinach. 17 times more calcium than milk. 15 times more potassium than bananas. The exact nutrients cortisol depletes most aggressively. I kept reading. Forum after forum of women describing the exact same thing my wife was going through. Anxiety medication that stopped working. 3 AM panic attacks that wouldn't stop. Weight gain, exhaustion, emotional numbness. And then they'd found Moringa. One phrase kept appearing: "I finally feel like myself again." That line broke something in me. That's what my wife had lost. Not just calm. Herself. The woman who used to laugh at stupid jokes. The woman who used to light up when our daughter ran into the room. The woman who didn't stand in doorways at 2 AM whispering "I can't feel anything." I ordered it that night. A bottle of Moringa capsules from a company called Rosabella. They had the clinical dose from the study. Medical-grade. Third-party tested. I hid it in my desk drawer. Every morning for three weeks, I'd see that bottle and think: What if this doesn't work? What if I just bought another disappointment? Every time I heard her wake up at 3 AM, I thought about that bottle. Every time she took her Zoloft with dead eyes, I thought about that bottle. Every time she looked at our daughter with that hollow expression, I thought about that bottle. Finally, I couldn't wait anymore. I put it on the kitchen counter one morning with a note: "Please try this. I can't watch you suffer anymore. Two capsules every morning. Just try it for two weeks." She texted me at work. "Another supplement?" I could feel the exhaustion in those two words. Two years of failed solutions had taught her not to hope. "This one's different," I wrote back. "It's not about serotonin. It's about replacing what cortisol burns through. Please. Just two weeks." She agreed. But I could tell she didn't believe me. The first four days, nothing changed. She still woke up at 3 AM. Still took her Xanax to get through the afternoon. Still had that hollow look. I started to think I'd been wrong. That I'd bought another useless supplement. That my wife was just going to keep disappearing. Then on day five, something happened. Small. Almost nothing. I came home from work and she was helping our daughter with homework. Not just sitting there. Actually present. Smiling at something our daughter said. The next morning, I asked how she slept. "I woke up at 3," she said. "But I fell back asleep. I haven't been able to do that in two years." Day eight, she didn't take her afternoon Xanax. "I forgot," she said. "I didn't need it." Day ten, she laughed at something on TV. Really laughed. I stopped what I was doing and just stared at her. I'd forgotten what that sounded like. Two weeks in, she was sleeping until 5:30 most mornings. No 3 AM panic attacks. No racing heart. No lying awake in terror. Three weeks in, she told me she wanted to stop the Zoloft. "I can feel things again," she said. "I cried watching a commercial yesterday. I was so happy to be able to cry." She looked at me. "I don't know what's in those capsules, but it's the first thing that's actually worked." We tapered her off the Zoloft over six weeks with her psychiatrist's supervision. The panic attacks didn't come back. The 3 AM wake-ups didn't come back. She didn't gain more weight. She started losing it. The light came back to her eyes. Two months after she started taking Moringa, I found her sitting on the floor of our daughter's room, watching her sleep. She looked up at me. "I can feel it now," she whispered. "I love her so much and I can feel it again." She started crying. "I thought I'd lost that forever." Then she said five words I'll never forget: "You gave me my life back." That was eight months ago. She takes two capsules every morning. She sleeps through the night now. The panic attacks are gone. She's off Zoloft, off Xanax, off Ambien. She laughs again. She's present again. She's her again. The woman standing in the doorway at 2 AM, unable to feel love for her own daughter, feels like a stranger now. Because she was. That wasn't my wife. That was what two years of unaddressed cortisol dysregulation had turned her into. My wife is back. Someone you love is running on empty right now. Anxious. Medicated. Numb. Saying "I can't feel anything" or "nothing works" like it's the only thing they know for certain. Your wife. Your sister. Your mom. Or maybe it's you—so depleted you've forgotten what it feels like to feel like yourself. 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